Success will not give you confidence. However, confidence in yourself and your abilities will make you successful! One way to build your confidence is to eliminate the word “can’t” from your vocabulary. Instead, when you don’t know how to do something, figure it out by thinking through the situation or task and doing research if you need to.
Here are a few other ways you can learn to be more confident:
- Challenge Your Self-Limiting Beliefs: Parents, teachers and special friends had your best interests at heart, but they didn’t know your limits. YOU choose those. Think about a person who excelled in spite of seemingly impossible odds and use them as inspiration! Push through your self-limiting beliefs!
- Be Careful What You Commit To Memory: Memory is not fact. Your brain is confirmation-biased, meaning it stores information consistent with your beliefs and values. Aha! So be aware and careful of what you store. Edit those important memories! Keep the ones where you do well at something.
- Use Positive Self-Talk: Self-talk CAN improve focus and achievement. Be positive and consistent. Especially when things are tough. Envision your best results.
- Counter The Negative: Negativity is supposed to protect us but it really limits us. Counter every negative thought with a positive one and keep that positive thought for at least 20 seconds. Acknowledge both good and bad emotions, label them and move on. Don’t “dialogue” or talk about the bad or give it power.
- Be Curious: Curiosity is a very valuable trait! It stimulates life-long growth and helps to maintain your ability to learn. It keeps your mind active instead of passive, makes you more observant, opens new worlds and possibilities for you AND creates an adventurous response!
- Overcome Self-Doubt: Identify the areas where you doubt yourself and remove them! Develop resilience to life’s inevitable obstacles.
- Don’t Let Fear Run Your Life: When we feel out of control, or are in a state of fear, we no longer think clearly. A big obstacle is in the way. Embrace what your fear; think about it, imagine the worst that could happen, breathe deeply and relax.
Becoming more confident is definitely worth the time and effort! After all, if you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect anyone else to?
SD County Escrow Team